Wednesday, July 6, 2011

On my mind

It has been quite some time since my last post.  Since then we have been very busy.  We moved back home, we have been continuing our work at The Fort Church and it is growing, we took a trip to the beach, we had all-stars tournament ( and won), and we had our first travel ball experience.  Also in this time we got Gabe back.  The Aunt decided that it was not going to work out to have Gabe placed with her.  It breaks my heart to see kids tossed around.  What kind of system do we have?????  I have learned over the last few months of fostering children that our system straight up SUCKS!!!!  If yesterday's trial of Casey Anthony wasn't enough for an indicator.  A woman that murders her child gets away with it.  I can't be the judge of the woman.  There is only one true judge.  Where is justice in this world we live in????  For example, we had one child that lived with us that had been in and out of the system since they were 6.  They were placed with a sibling that was only 5 years older.  A 22 year old individual will be the primary caretaker of a 17 year old, a 13 year old and a 5 year old.  Tell me how in the world is that in the best interest of the child???  We had another child that was obviously abused by a male.  She would not look at Adam and was VERY disrespectful to him.  I woke up the first night she was in my home and found her sleeping with her hands down her pants.  She told me so many stories.  She had been thru more at 4 years of age and seen more things than I have.  When i told our system about it, I was told to take notes just in case it ever came up in court.  She was placed back with a family member.  Where is the protection of that child???  It saddens me to know that we pay all these tax dollars and our children are in this type of danger everyday.  These are just a couple of the stories I have more.  My stories don't even break the ice of the children that are in custody of the state.  I remember that I was told when we first started that foster children have a vicious cycle to break.  Once they end up in foster care, then their children are likely to end up the same way.  I have seen this to be proven true.  There are beautiful children that could be adopted by families that would love them and give them the world, but our system is so deranged it wants to protect the parent... NO WONDER PEOPLE PAY THOUSANDS TO GO OVER SEAS TO ADOPT.  I never understood why people would do it, but now I do.  I just had to rant and rave!